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Cadence, October 6, 2009 
Cadence October 6 2009

 "Cadence" In Tandem Coaching's Newsletter

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 Note from Joanne

 Hello!

 I’m back from the camping trip! And I’m happy to
 report that I really enjoyed it. Some of the things I
 feared (that I would feel cold, uncomfortable, and
 unclean) just did not happen. And, foodie that I am –
 I was surprised by how well we ate out there – perhaps
 food prepared outdoors just naturally tastes better.
 We had steaks, greek salad, chorizo, mashed potatoes,
 hot coffee in the morning (and I snuck in a bag of
 marshmallows just for fun). OK so it wasn’t
 “primitive” camping – we had a small portable fridge
 and a camp stove. But hey, I can now say I’ve been
 camping, in a tent, for more than one-two days, and
 not only did I live to tell about it, I found it fun.
 (Shhh, don’t tell my husband, but I will still always
 prefer a four-star hotel or resort for my vacations).

 We saw some incredible sights. It reminded me that
 America is truly beautiful when you get to the less-
 developed spots. Here’s a photo of me starting the day
 at one of the campgrounds we visited: Navajo State
 Park in Colorado. Look closely and you can see a
 smidgen of the lake in the background.

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 Feature Article

 Ignore the Labels and Do What Fits Your Personality

 I read some advice from a business coach that really
 ticked me off: it advised coaches to “stop hiding
 behind your telephone and computer…” OK, so perhaps I
 am being oversensitive, because I do spend a lot of
 time in front of my computer and I prefer coaching by
 phone. The thing is, I am not hiding! I spend the bulk
 of my business time on the computer because: 1) I like
 it. 2) I am not limited by geography – I can connect
 to someone on any continent. 3) It’s where I expect to
 “find” a lot of the people I want to serve: fellow
 introverts who aren’t too keen on attending large
 group events.

 So it makes sense to me to do things the way I do
 them. My business model makes sense to me.

 As for the telephone, heck, if I had things my way I
 would hardly ever use it – I like email better. I like
 the asynchronous functionality of email. In other
 words, as an introvert I really appreciate and prefer
 a communication medium where I can see (I’m a visual
 learner) rather than hear what a person has to say,
 and where I have the opportunity to read it, process
 it and compose a reply in my own time.

 I have coached clients both over the telephone and via
 email, and I have not yet decided what is the optimal
 medium of the two. I would say it depends on both the
 particular client and the particular issue(s). There
 are times when email is too cumbersome, where I need
 to have that “dance” with the client in real time.
 There are times when the client needs support or has a
 quick question and can’t get the privacy or time to
 make a phone call.

 That said, I do see a benefit of delivering coaching
 in person for those clients and those situations where
 it better serves the client. I plan to offer some
 retreats in the future, just for that purpose.

 My point: I’ve noticed that introverts, by following
 their own preferences, get mislabeled. “Hiding” is one
 such accusation I’m tired of hearing. Yes our
 preferences can result in our being overlooked or not
 noticed – but that does not mean we don’t wish to be
 discovered! Rather than change your behavior, I
 suggest you find creative ways to get noticed, ways
 that work with your introvert preferences. (As I
 discover such creative ways, I’ll be sharing them with
 you – it’s a work-in- progress for me also).

 So are you hiding or are you being your introvert
 self? Only you know the answer to that one. Can you do
 your thing effectively in a manner that makes sense to
 you? If so, carry on and ignore the labels. Live your
 life so that it makes sense to YOU!

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 Joanne Recommends

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 Success Made Simple (SMS) Tip

 Receive as graciously as you give; when you accept
 another person’s help, compliment or support, you are
 giving that person a gift as well; the opportunity to
 contribute to another’s well-being.

 If you tend to be a “giver” (most people reading this)
 check in with yourself and see if you are comfortable
 with receiving. If not, start practicing! (It does not
 mean you stop giving; it just means you allow others
 to give to you as well).

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 Joanne's Hype-Free Zone

 Disclosure: Many of my recommendations use an
 affiliate link, which means I get a small (often
 miniscule) commission if you purchase using the link I
 provide. I never recommend products or services that I
 would not be willing to purchase myself (if I don’t
 already own it).

 I’m reading  The Joy Diet: 10 Daily Practices for a
 Happier Life by Martha Beck http://tinyurl.com/y8bjgtc
 as part of a group blogging project called The Next
 Chapter http://tnc-thejoydiet.blogspot.com You can
 follow along with my experiences with finding more joy
 as we work through the book (one chapter each week) by
 visiting my blog http://tinyurl.com/cugq56 Or you may
 want to join us – all you need is the book, a blog
 (you can create one at no cost on several sites) and
 willingness to try it. Even if you don’t want to blog
 about it, I do recommend the book – read it at your
 own pace and in the privacy of your home.

 Don’t forget Pat Weber’s ebook on: Debunking Negative
 Introvert Myths: Bringing Your Introvert Strengths to
 the Party.

 Her ebook will help you: Make effective use of your
 innate strengths.

 Demolish any devastating doubts of your true worth.
 Feel good about who you are instead of learning any
 more extroverted skills.

 You can get a 32-page excerpt (no charge) of her ebook
 and workbook here http://tinyurl.com/n7gfww

 PS. Check it out! I’m mentioned in the book.

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