"Cadence" In Tandem Coaching's Newsletter
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Note from Joanne
Hello!
As an introvert, I love to read, and I prefer written
communication over spoken. I’m also a visual learner,
so I like to write things down, take notes, make
lists, etc. Despite this, I’m not a prolific writer –
I would rather read about what others think (since I
already know what I think).
Because I would rather write to my audience than speak
to them (although I am a good, if not excellent,
public speaker) I’ve started a couple of blogs to help
build my business. I invite you to visit either (they
are listed in the Recommendation Zone) and leave a
comment if you feel so inclined. You will notice some
overlap with this newsletter, and some original
content on the blogs as well.
It takes a while for anyone to find her “blogging
voice” and this includes me. Please be patient and
gentle with me as I develop mine.
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Feature Article
Are You Waiting for Permission?
Introverts need time alone. Note that I stated,
“need,” not “want.” It’s really necessary for us to
function at our best. Yet, so many of us struggle with
finding (or perhaps allowing ourselves) that needed
time alone. Why do we find this so difficult? I
believe there are many possible reasons.
Here are some beliefs and/or behavior that get in the
way of having as much alone time as you need:
* Not acknowledging the necessity of some time alone
* A tendency to over commit because you don’t want to
appear “lazy”
* An inability or reluctance to say “No”
* Identifying solitude as unhealthy or unnatural
* Fearing others will label you rude, weird, anti-
social (or worse) if you reveal your preference
* Believing you have to justify your need before you
can satisfy it
* Comparing yourself to others with different social
needs and thinking something’s wrong with you (hint,
we’re all different, so please stop comparing)
* And the biggie (in my opinion): Waiting for
permission to take time for yourself.
Are you waiting for permission? In other words, do you
wait for someone else to approve of how you choose to
spend your time? Do you feel you have to “explain” or
apologize for those times you want to spend alone? Do
you not take time for yourself unless you can think up
a “good reason” for it?
I experienced a big “aha” moment once I realized that
I was waiting for permission from other people before
I let myself follow my own inclinations. A bigger
“aha” immediately followed: “There’s no one stopping
me but me. I’m the one withholding permission from
myself.”
Do your introvert self a huge favor and give yourself
permission to be who you are. This affects some much
more than allowing yourself the needed alone time –
but getting your needed alone time consistently is an
excellent first step to functioning optimally.
Be forewarned: giving yourself permission will not
suddenly make extra time appear! If you are a typical
overworked, over committed, overwhelmed person (and
who isn’t these days) it will challenge your time
management skills to fit in that alone time. Whatever
time management approach you choose, try regarding
your alone time as a “must have” instead of “nice to
have” and see if that opens up some opportunities you
have previously overlooked (or denied yourself).
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Success Made Simple (SMS) Tip
Instead of asking yourself: “What should I do?” Ask
yourself “What do I want to do?” Free yourself of your
“shoulds;” they just weigh you down.
And while you’re at it, stop judging your “wants.” You
want what you want, and you were given that want for a
reason. Sometimes it is wise not to act on all of your
wants, given your circumstances, but at least
acknowledge that you have that want, and that’s
totally OK.
Aaah, do you feel that burden lifting from your
shoulders?
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Ask the Coach
I’ve been enjoying providing suggested solutions to
your Ask the Coach queries. Let’s keep this up! I
invite you to submit whatever question is on your
mind. If I can’t address it, I’ll tell you. All you
have to do is (figuratively) whisper in my ear. I’m
listening…
Click here to Ask the Coach
mailto:JoanneH@intandemcoaching.com
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Joanne's Hype-Free Recommendation Zone
Blogs by and/or for introverts (including my own):
Just Have Fun With It!
http://overwhelmingsuccess.typepad.com/just_have_fun_w
ith_it
Overwhelming Success for Solopreneurs
http://www.overwhelmingsuccess.com/
(My two blogs)
Patricia Weber, Business Sales Coach for Introverts
http://prostrategies.com/wordpress
Celebrate Connections
http://celebrateconnections.blogspot.com/
Having A Unique Family
http://uniquefamilylife.blogspot.com/
(same author, different topics)
Kristi Cash White
http://counseling.kristicashwhite.com/index.php/blog
Rise of the Innerpreneur
http://www.elasticmind.ca/innerpreneur
Stepping Stones http://www.wellnessjourneys.com/blog
Introvert Retreat http://introvertretreat.com/
Living Introverted http://livingintroverted.com/blog3
If you are an introvert who blogs and you don’t see
your blog listed here, I would love to visit your blog
and check it out. Send me an email with your blog
link. mailto:JoanneH@intandemcoaching.com
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