"Cadence" In Tandem Coaching's Newsletter
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Note from Joanne
Hello!
Wow! The holiday season is upon us. Alexander and I
had a quiet Thanksgiving at home with a guest. We
served turducken, which is boneless chicken stuffed
into a boneless duck stuffed into a partially de-boned
turkey. Cornbread dressing fits in there also – don’t
ask me how they manage to do it, but it is very tasty.
I am still on my Weight Watchers journey; somehow I
managed to enjoy a Thanksgiving feast and not gain any
weight. It must have been the long, fast-paced hikes
Alexander led over the weekend that did it.
In addition to wrapping up my business year, planning
new offerings, working on my website revamp, and
looking for supplemental income opportunities; I have
the typical holiday activities to fit into my busy
schedule. My reminder to you is also a reminder to
myself: don’t over commit this holiday season. Pick
and choose which social invitations to accept. You can
best take care of others if you take care of yourself
first!
Sincerely,
Joanne Julius Hunold
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Feature Article
Who Do You Think You Aren’t?
That’s not a typo in the title. I’m asking you to
pause for a minute or more (given how much we
introverts like to reflect), and ask yourself: ”Who am
I not?” Make a list of 10-20 attributes and/or
personality traits that are not you. For example, I
told myself for many years (and still do) that I am
not an athlete or athletic, as I have been overweight
and slow my entire life (also a little clumsy).
Look over your list. You have just identified your
perceived limitations. They hold you back; prevent you
from reaching your goals (you DO have specific goals,
right?) or even stop you from attempting certain
objectives.
The limitation usually takes the form of this belief:
“I can’t do X because I’m not Y.” (Where X is the
desired objective and Y is the attribute you are not.)
This becomes a self- fulfilling prophecy. You believe
you can’t do X so you don’t try, or you attempt it
half-heartedly and give up at the first sign of
difficulty or lack of progress. So you don’t get X and
you now have “proof” that you “can’t.”
If you want to overcome a perceived limitation
(remember you don’t have to if you don’t WANT to),
here’s what you can do:
1. Recognize and acknowledge the limitation you
currently hold.
2. Accept it; make it OK to believe this for now. This
is also known as “Meet yourself where you are.”
3. Now start questioning your belief. Is this really
true? Who says? Any exceptions?
4. Start playing with definitions and meaning for the
attribute; expand your possibilities for success.
5. Do X anyway. I’m going to start sounding like a
broken record, but action goes a long way in helping
you shatter your limitation myths. The trick here is
to not give up too soon.
To use my example from above, I once believed I could
not participate in group long-distance competitive
events such as triathlons and century rides, because
“I am not an athlete.” In fact, I entered my first
triathlon (in my 40s) because I thought that if I
actually completed it, I would finally “feel” fit and
athletic; that I would start perceiving myself as an
athlete. I picked a triathlon because, at the time, it
appeared to be well out of my reach. I did not expect
to win; nor did I expect to place within my age group.
I expanded my possibilities for success by deciding
that a win for me was to finish the event. All I had
to do was to enter and not drop out. I finished, not
last, but at the very back of the pack. I did a few
more triathlons in the years following, and then
switched to bike events (easier on the joints). I’m
fit, but still overweight, still slower than most, and
still occasionally enjoying these types of events in
my own plodding-but-determined style.
Guess what? I still don’t see myself as an athlete,
but what I learned is: It does not matter whether I
think I am an athlete or not. I did what I set out to
do anyway. You can too. I know you can. Just focus on
what you want, set your limitations aside as best you
can, and DO IT. Do it your way, at your pace. Who says
it has to be any other way?
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Joanne Recommends
Last call to answer the In Tandem 2010 Wish List
survey before the Dec. 15 prize drawing. I received
some feedback that some of you are reluctant to answer
the survey because you are not in a position to hire a
coach in 2010 and you don’t want to mislead me. And
yes I do word the survey such that I am asking about
2010 desires; because I want my offerings to address
your most pressing needs.
Here’s the thing: I really want to know and understand
your needs better, whether or not you think you can
afford it. I do include a survey question that asks
about affordability, so you will not be misleading me
by taking the survey. Tell me what you want by
answering all the questions as if you had all the
funds (and time) you need, then check the appropriate
statement in question 5 (asks about readiness and
affordability from your perspective).
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Success Made Simple (SMS) Tip
Don’t give up! Change tactics, tweak, revamp, and seek
another perspective when things get rough, but stay
the course – unless and until you are sure you’re on
the wrong path.
Before success comes in any man's life he is sure to
meet with much temporary defeat and, perhaps, some
failures. When defeat overtakes a man, the easiest and
most logical thing to do is to quit. That is exactly
what the majority of men do.
~ Napoleon Hill
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Joanne's Hype-Free Zone
The last issue of Cadence offered a resource for
introverted entrepreneurs; this time I am focusing on
the needs of my readers in the corporate world. Two
recent articles provide a great summary of the
advantages (yes I said advantages) introverts have in
the workplace. I don’t understand why, but we
introverts often tend to overlook our strengths and
focus on what we lack (or think we lack). Read the
articles below and see if you can recognize yourself
and re-discover how lucky your employer is to have
you! The articles provide both information (tips) and
inspiration. I highly recommend reading them, and it
won’t take up much of your time.
Leverage the advantages of being an introvert at work
http://tinyurl.com/yggmmfx
Why Introverts Can Make the Best Leaders
http://tinyurl.com/yhpfm39
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Disclosure: Many of my recommendations use an
affiliate link, which means I get a small (often
miniscule) commission if you purchase using the link I
provide. I never recommend products or services that I
would not be willing to purchase myself (if I don’t
already own it).
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Quick Links
Just Have Fun With It! http://tinyurl.com/cugq56
Overwhelming Success for Solopreneurs
http://www.overwhelmingsuccess.com/
Green Light Sessions http://my.timedriver.com/KS1K2
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